This is Me

 Here we go then, a slightly new place for my words and a blog that's a bit different but then again, not different from those that have gone before. I've kept a blog for a lot of years and you can still access those from my profile page, but they were very much linked to my running journey, from beginner, to marathons, then ultras and through it the ups and downs with my mental health and my weight. But my running is no longer something which essentially defines me and I felt the words on the page didn't reflect what it was originally set up for. I may go back now and then and add some running words, but it's more likely I'll share my broader words here and include a bit of running. 

Yes, this is me. I'm 48 years old, turning 49 this year with a life time of mental illness. It started, well it probably started long before I realised, but it manifested itself when I was 12 and then grew and grew. Sometimes stable, sometimes very much not. Depression and anxiety, with a lot of eating disorder thrown in. Years of therapy on and off and a full breakdown in 2019 with extensive time off work made me realise I also had developmental trauma. 

Now I'm peri-menopausal, still having therapy but also with a range of tools and techniques that I've found works for me and keeps me mostly well. I've become very open about my struggles and my triumphs and I just want to be able to share my words with others. As I know how hard it can be, I've not only thought about, I have attempted suicide and I'm still here to tell my tale. 


But don't worry it won't all be mental health and hot flushes. Well it probably will be, but I also love sharing my thoughts on topics that matter to me and to the world. Which is why I expect this space to be very different from my other blogs and I hope you'll stick around to see how. 

What I wasn't good at with the other blogs was making sure it was a regular thing, but I'd like to get better at that. So that will be one of my targets, to try and publish a post once a month. There is a space for comments so I would love to hear what you think and you can also find me over on Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn. 


At work today I was talking about authenticity being one of my values, which is why I'm not afraid to link this to my work network. Who I am is important both in my personal and professional life. I made that mistake pre-2019 of thinking they had to be separate and look where it got me, so no more! 

This is and will be very much me....









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  1. The Sweat Files25 March 2022 at 00:20

    Great to see you blogging Jo, love reading your thoughts. X leila

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    1. JoFWise25 March 2022 at 06:52

      Thank you so much....they may be quite random at times!

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  2. The Real Man's Bible24 June 2022 at 02:41

    Keep sharing :-)

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